Are You Self-Sabotaging?
Unfortunately, some people relapse after they go to treatment to attempt a life of recovery. There are a wide range of reasons this happens, but one that often goes unnoticed is self-sabotage. For reasons that are typically unknown to the person, they sabotage their own recovery. By recognizing the signs of self-sabotaging behavior, you can avoid relapse and continue to live the life that you deserve. First, it’s important to know why people self-sabotage in the first place.
Why People Self-Sabotage
Self-sabotage is when a person has destructive behaviors, that are often subtle, which results in hurting the person’s overall goal. From the outside looking in, self-sabotage seems extremely irrational, and it often is, but it’s usually rooted in something else. One of the reasons treatment is so beneficial is because you get to work with a therapist who can help you understand why you’re self-sabotaging. In some cases, working with a therapist can help you recognize that you’re doing these behaviors in the first place.
Many people who struggle with this type of behavior do so because they feel as though they don’t deserve to live a good life. When you feel as though you’re not good enough or worth positive results, you do behaviors that prevent you from achieving these results. For many people, this happens somewhere in their childhood. You might have had parents who were verbally or emotionally abusive who told you that you weren’t good enough or wouldn’t amount to anything. Others may have this thought process as a result of an abusive relationship.
In order to recover, you need to realize that your identity is not based on what anyone else tells you. More importantly, it doesn’t have to be based on what your mind tells you either. A common misconception is that we are the way we are, and there’s nothing we can do to change it. The reality is that working on yourself can change who you are, and you always have the opportunity to grow. Through various forms of therapy, you’ll learn to catch these self-defeating thoughts and stop them in their tracks.
Do You Self-Sabotage?
There are a few signs of self-sabotage, and one of the most obvious ones is how you behave in relationships. When you don’t feel good enough, you feel as though you’re not worthy of love. This can be rooted in self-confidence issues or an intense fear of abandonment. In order to stay sober, it’s crucial to have a strong support group, but that’s impossible if you keep pushing people away. To overcome this, you need to start recognizing when you’re picking fights with others over small things that don’t have to be a big deal. Through 12-step programs and therapy, you’ll learn coping skills to avoid these types of situations.
The other major sign of self-sabotage is doing things you know you’re not supposed to do. In recovery, we learn to change people, places, and things. Those who self-sabotage may go back and run with the old crowd or go to places that have drugs and alcohol. All of these situations can make you start to doubt yourself, and eventually, you may be tempted to drink or use. Those who stay on the right track by doing what’s suggested will learn to stop this behavior and achieve long-term sobriety.
How to Prevent Self-Sabotage
Enlightened Solutions is an addiction treatment center that serves a variety of communities in New Jersey from Atlantic County, to Camden County, to Gloucester County and more. Once treatment is complete, we encourage people to stay connected through our events as well as the meetings that we host. You’ll begin to hang around the right types of people who will tell you what you need to hear rather than what you want to hear because they care, and this will help you overcome your issues with self-sabotage.
If you or a loved one is currently struggling with the disease of addiction, give us a call today at 833-233-7336.