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Why Boundaries Are Essential For Well-being

Boundaries are physical or imaginary lines that show where one thing ends and the other begins. They might be the defining lines of a shape or the fence at the end of your garden. In relationships, boundaries are limits that separate your physical space, needs, feelings, and responsibilities from others.

Any kind of relationship should have boundaries, whether it is a friend, partner, family member, or someone else in your life. Boundaries help you define what you are comfortable with and how people can treat you. They help others understand what is acceptable to you and what is not, and how to be respectful.

What Are My Boundaries?

Personal boundaries can take many different forms, including physical and emotional. Physical boundaries relate to your personal space – you may not want people to stand too close to you or come into your bedroom without knocking.

Emotional boundaries are about responsibilities, obligations, and what people can expect from you. You might have a friend who wants to see you every day or expects you to visit them whenever they feel like it. Setting boundaries is about telling them that you are not obligated to spend all your time with them, and they cannot demand it from you.

Why Do You Need Boundaries?

Boundaries are fundamental to healthy, mutually supportive relationships. While healthy boundaries may be rigid or flexible, a complete lack of boundaries leaves you vulnerable to exploitation by others.

Boundaries help you establish your identity – to have your own thoughts, feelings, and goals without thinking about pleasing others.

Creating healthy boundaries is important for self-care. We all need time and space to look after ourselves – to relax, recover, and connect with our inner beings. Boundaries stop you from devoting all your energy to the needs of others so that you  have time to care for yourself.

Boundaries help create realistic expectations of what we will do for others. If you don’t speak about your boundaries, people can feel resentful or angry when you do not want to or cannot do what they ask.

Setting healthy boundaries helps you feel safe and comfortable by keeping out harmful thoughts and feelings.

How Can You Communicate Boundaries?

The best way to communicate your boundaries is to talk about them. This can be through simple statements like ‘I’m not comfortable when you…’ or ‘I’d like it if you…’. The other person should respect your boundaries in a healthy relationship and listen to what you have to say.

It’s also important to ask your friend or partner what their boundaries are. Questions like ‘Is this ok?’ help you to know how to respect their boundaries. Understanding both of your boundaries is a critical part of maintaining supportive relationships.

What Can Prevent You From Setting Boundaries?

We don’t always set boundaries well. This can cause people to take advantage of us and lead to codependent relationships.

You may avoid setting boundaries because of low self-worth. If you do not value yourself, you may feel that all your worth lies in helping to please others. Realizing that you are important is key to developing healthy relationships with others.

You may also not set boundaries because you are afraid of the consequences, as communicating boundaries may lead to somewhat difficult conversations. Like most things, setting boundaries gets easier the more you do it, and these conversations will become more natural.

How Do Boundaries Support Addiction Recovery?

Establishing healthy boundaries is a crucial part of recovering from addiction and maintaining sobriety.

Developing a Sense of Self-Worth

In the early stages of recovery, you may struggle with low self-esteem. Setting boundaries helps you develop your identity, connect with your goals and passions, and realize the importance of looking after yourself.

Healthy and Supportive Relationships

Developing mutually supportive relationships is a fundamental part of recovery from addiction. Healthy relationships offer us support in challenging times and help us remain committed to a life of sobriety. Setting clear boundaries allows you to develop these strong and supportive bonds with others.

Learning to Say ‘No’

When you are recovering from addiction, sometimes you simply need to say ‘no’. You might turn down an invitation to go to a party or not want to meet with a particular group of friends you associate with drug use. Creating boundaries is about telling others what you do and don’t want to do so that others can respect your decisions.

 

Enlightened Solutions is a detox facility that offers different kinds of therapy and holistic treatments to help you begin healing. We host 12-step meetings for alumni so you can continue to learn from others around you and maintain a life of sobriety.

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