With tens of thousands of people struggling with the disease of addiction, it’s easy to think that drugs and alcohol are the source of the problem. When people develop addictions to these mind-altering substances, their life becomes unmanageable, and relationships with friends and family become disrupted. The point of drug and alcohol treatment in New Jersey isn’t to just help people quit using alcohol and drugs, but it’s also about getting to the root causes of their addiction. For many people, a core issue they struggle with is codependency, which can lead to toxic relationships before, during, and after addiction.
Codependency is characterized as when a person is in a dysfunctional and one-sided relationship. This involves one of the people relying on the other person to meet most, if not all, of their emotional and self-esteem needs. When it comes to addiction, it’s important to understand that the person struggling with codependency issues can be the person with the addiction or a loved one. Sometimes, the person who is codependent is a spouse, child, parent or friend. One of the most difficult parts of overcoming addiction is when the loved one of the addicts is codependent because they will often enable the person’s addictive behaviors.
It’s common for parents to have codependent relationships with their addicted children because they love their child and want to help. While this is a normal aspect of parenting, when it reaches levels of codependency, it becomes a problem. As with spouses and others who might be codependent, when your self-esteem and emotional needs are completely wrapped up in the other person, you don’t make the best decisions. For example, out of an intense fear of abandonment or your need to be loved, you may do whatever the other person asks of you, which can include fueling their addiction.
One of the core symptoms of codependency is when a person has low self-esteem. When a person doesn’t feel good enough or is constantly comparing themselves to others, they turn to their relationships as a source of validation. We all appreciate being loved and validated by people in our lives, but when our entire sense of self is reliant upon it, it becomes unhealthy. This also leads to another symptom of codependency, which is people-pleasing. People-pleasing is often rooted in the need to be liked as well as the fear of making someone upset.
Those who are codependent also struggle with having poor boundaries, which results in the caretaking of people who should be able to take care of themselves. This is one of the main reasons why people stay in their addiction for so long. If you’re someone with an addiction, your self-esteem, control and caretaking issues may be making you miserable, and this can lead to self-medicating with drugs and alcohol. Fortunately, help is available for those with an addiction as well as their loved ones at Enlightened Solutions Detox.
We provide drug and alcohol detox services to the people of Atlantic County, Gloucester County, Ocean County as well as the rest of New Jersey. Enlightened Solutions also has a clinical team who can help you and your loved one with codependency issues, so you can create a stronger, lasting relationship. Call us today at 833-733-2336 for more information.
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