How to Have an Intervention
Having a loved one who is struggling with an addiction to alcohol or drugs can affect the whole family. Whether it’s a spouse, parent, child, friend or someone else in your life, it can be difficult to know what to do. There’s often a fine line between loving the person and enabling them, but when you try to help, the addict can become defensive and aggressive. Interventions are a great way to help a person get the treatment they need, but there’s a right way and a wrong way to have one. By knowing the basics of holding an intervention, you’ll increase your chances of assisting your loved one in getting the treatment they need.
What’s an Informal Intervention?
Oftentimes, when people think of having an intervention, they think of the television show from A&E that grew in popularity by showing what an intervention looks like. Typically, those types of formal interventions don’t happen until it’s absolutely necessary, because as you’ve seen, tensions can run high in those situations. The best way to start is to have an informal intervention with your loved one. The goal is to present the addict with the idea of getting help without them feeling as though they’re being given an ultimatum.
Believe it or not, many people struggling with addiction have never even thought about getting help. When someone is trapped in the clutches of addiction, they think that it’s the only way to live. They don’t consider getting help because they don’t think it’ll help someone like them. Sometimes, all it takes is someone in their life bringing up the idea to them. Having an informal intervention is best done when a person is coming down from drugs or hungover. When they’re in this state of mind, you can ask them if they’ve considered getting help, and then assist them in finding resources if they are.
When’s a Formal Intervention Necessary?
Addiction is a progressive disease, and as time goes on, it gets more powerful. When a person is in the severe stages of addiction, a more formal intervention is necessary to get them to receive help. In this type of intervention, you get as many people as possible who are close to the person who is struggling with an addiction to attend. Some people may not want to be part of it, and that’s okay. During a formal intervention, you’re setting up clear boundaries letting the person know that if they don’t get help, you can no longer support them in any way.
Without realizing it, many addicts are enabled by their loved ones. Even if you’re not physically buying them drugs or alcohol, you might be fueling their addiction. This can come in the form of providing them with a place to live, paying their bills, buying them food, or emotionally supporting them through the chaos. When you set this boundary, the person can get really upset, and this is why it’s a good idea to have a professional with you to mediate the intervention.
Coming From a Place of Love
The most important part of an informal or formal intervention is love and empathy. It’s easy to see someone struggling with an addiction as a bad person, but they aren’t. You must remember that you’re dealing with a sick person who is struggling with a disease that doesn’t want them to get better. When you can remind yourself that your loved one is sick, it will help you through the intervention process. And if you need help getting your loved one the help they need, allow Enlightened Solutions to help. We have a team of addiction professionals standing by, so call us today at 833-233-7336.