How to Honor Those You Lost to Addiction
Each year, thousands of people in the state of New Jersey struggle with addiction. Most of the people trying to get clean are people who aren’t using in isolation. Addicts hang out with other addicts. This is why it’s common for many addicts to have lost at least one close friend or acquaintance to the disease of addiction. In recovery, you need to be able to learn how to honor those you lost and how to deal with grief in a healthy way.
Self-Medicating Grief with Drugs
When you’re addicted to drugs, you turn to substances as a solution for all of your problems. Drugs become a primary coping skill. You turn to drugs when you’re feeling angry, sad, anxious, or any other emotion that you don’t want to feel. So, when you lose someone close to you to the disease of addiction, it’s unfortunately common that people turn to drugs as a way to cope.
Turning to drugs when you lose someone to addiction makes you feel worse. As you turn to drugs as a way to cope with grief, you’re also experiencing a tremendous amount of guilt. It causes a tremendous amount of dissonance in the mind to know that someone you cared about died from addiction, and they most likely wouldn’t want you getting high as a way to mourn them. This is why it’s vital to take a step back and realize that the best way to honor those you’ve lost to addiction is to get clean and stay clean.
Honoring Those You’ve Lost to Addiction
Those without an addiction don’t understand. But you do. When you’re struggling with a drug addiction, you’re dealing with a tremendous amount of pain. And you also know that those you’ve lost to addiction were also dealing with pain. One way to cope is to know in your heart that someone you cared about is no longer suffering, but more importantly, you can recover to honor them in an incredible way. Whether it was a friend, family member, spouse, child or another loved one, they cared about you too, and they want you to live the great life that you deserve.
If you feel survivor’s guilt after losing someone you’re not alone, but this is your opportunity to get and stay clean. One of the other great benefits of getting clean and staying clean is that you can help others. An incredible way to honor those you’ve lost to addiction is by staying clean and helping people who are currently struggling. This is one of the reasons why 12-step programs are so successful; they rely on one addict or alcoholic helping another.
Grieving Takes Time
Most importantly, you need to understand that the grieving process is going to take time. While you may never fully overcome the loss of someone you love, it does get easier over time. Just remember that by getting clean, staying clean, and helping others, you’ll be taking the best action possible to honor those that you’ve lost. And if you need help getting clean or staying clean, Enlightened Solutions can help. Give us a call today at 833-233-7336.